SGC Admin: From our inbox to you from Daily Om on “The Process of Grieving” …

SGC Admin: From our inbox to you from Daily Om on “The Process of Grieving” … 

Two women grieving following loss of family memeber Stock Photo - 23256531 Copyright : Katarzyna Białasiewicz

September 23, 2015
The Process of Grieving
Becoming Whole Again

by Madisyn Taylor

Grief can arise from many life situations, but know it is not a permanent state of being.

When we experience any kind of devastating loss, whether it is the loss of a loved one, a dream, or a relationship, feelings may arise within us that are overwhelming or difficult to cope with. This sense of grief can also come up when we are separated from anyone or anything we have welcomed into our lives. And while it may feel like we are caught up in a never-ending spiral of sadness and emptiness, it is important to remember that the grief we are feeling is not a permanent state of being. Rather, grief is part of the process of letting go that in many ways can be a gift, allowing us to go deeper within ourselves to rediscover the light amidst the seeming darkness.

The emotions that accompany any kind of loss can be intense and varied. A sense of shock or denial is often the first reaction, to be replaced by anger. Sometimes this anger can be directed at your loved one for “abandoning” you; at other times you may feel outrage toward the universe for what you are enduring. And while there are stages of grief that people go through – moving from denial to anger to bargaining to depression to acceptance – the cycles of grief often move in spirals, sometimes circling forward and then back again. You may even experience moments of strength, faith, and laughter in between. While these emotions seem to come and go sporadically, it is important to feel them, accept them, and allow them to flow. With time, patience, and compassion, you will eventually find your center again.

As we move through our grief, we may find ourselves reluctant to release our pain, fearing we are letting go of who or what we have lost. We may even regard our movement toward healing as an act of disloyalty or giving up. Know that while the hurt may fade, the essence of what you had and who you loved will have already transformed you and forever stay with you. If anything, once you are ready for the pain of your loss to subside, their memories can then live more fully within you. Remember, that healing is a part of the spiraling cycles of grief, and that in letting yourself feel restored again, you are surrendering to a natural movement that is part of the dance of life.

Summer Solstice Celebration with Julie Ditta in Whitby June 2015

Summer solstice. Midsummer Day. Ivan Kupala. Pagan holiday. Hand-drawing Stock Photo - 24723109 Copyright : Lyudmyla Kharlamova
  • Event: Summer Solstice Celebration
    Date: Friday, June 19:
  • Time: 7:30 pm
  • Location: Ezra Annes Bed & Breakfast
    239 Wellington St., Whitby
  • What’s it all about: The Solstice heralds the beginning of summer. It is a time for balancing energy and for seeking fulfillment from all life has to offer. Join us in an evening of Ceremony and Celebration to renew our spirits and reconnect to nature in the Solstice tradition of calling back the sun.
  • Refreshments: Yes
  • Cost:$10.00
  • Registration: Yes: (Please register in advance by June 18) Cancellation notice is much appreciated.
  • Contact: Call Julie to register. 905-666-8238